If you find yourself wanting a better love life, you certainly are not alone. People of all ages and with all relationship statuses will find themselves wishing they had a happier, healthier, or even an existing love life.
Have you tried to manifest love in your pursuit of a stronger relationship?
While you may have heard the buzzword in terms of manifesting money or a better job, manifestation may hold the key to unlocking your happiest relationship. Sound too good to be true? Let’s take a look at how the power of manifestation could help you achieve your goal of strengthening your love life.
What Does the Manifesting Process Look Like?
With the increased popularity of the practice, you may already be familiar with manifestation as a tool to achieve your dreams.
If you haven’t yet heard of the process, let’s go over a brief summary to catch you up to speed.
The root of manifestation relies on the Law of Attraction; it explains that what you focus your mind on will come to you. If you only focus on negativity and the possibilities of what could go wrong, these negative experiences will find you. If you focus on the positives and the possibilities, you will have positive experiences and will feel good about your place in life.
In Rhonda Byrne’s 2006 bestselling book The Secret, she discusses how many successful figures in history knew the power of the law of attraction and used it to achieve their goals. Abraham Lincolm, Winston Churchill, and Ludwig van Beethoven all made her list. As the book has sold 30 million copies worldwide, it’s clear that many find her reasoning compelling, even if critics point out that the book has no explicit scientific basis.
So how does this work?
This process isn’t some sort of wish-fulfillment magic; it requires consistent effort. But if you keep focusing on what could go right if you take a chance and see setbacks as opportunities to regroup and try again, you’ll develop a resilience that prevents you from giving up.
Manifestation takes that principle and helps you apply that law in your own life. To manifest your goals, focus on the possibilities and the joy you will experience when you achieve them. Spending energy on this positivity will help you bring those dreams into reality.
Prolific author Deepak Chopra writes in The Path to Love: Spiritual Strategies for Healing, “There can be no sense of security in your existence when it depends upon outside factors, for the unpredictable changes of reality can never be controlled.” In other words, the only way to find a sense of balance in your life is through taking the reins on your own instead of letting limiting beliefs define you.
Manifesting Romance and a Stronger Love Life
You now have a basic understanding of how the practice of manifestation works; how you can apply these principles into your love life?
The practice and the goals will look different depending on the current state of your love life; a single person will focus on different outcomes than a married person. However, no matter what place you are in your love life, it all comes down to one practice: self-reflection.
Why Do You Want a Relationship?
To know where to focus your energy, you need to understand your intention behind what your true goals are. Sure, you want to be in a relationship; but why is that? Where does this desire come from?
Do you want to build your life with someone so you can share the joys of triumph and the pain of sorrow as a united front? Or do you want someone to love you because you experience a lack of love for yourself?
If you want to enter a relationship because you need an external source of love to make yourself feel full, you need to work on creating a self-sustaining self-love on your own. Entering a relationship and immediately becoming dependent on their approval for your self-esteem only sets the two of you up for a toxic relationship, no matter how pure your intentions or genuine your attraction. To start a relationship in a healthy way, you can’t depend on each other for such a basic need.
If you have a spouse and find yourself wishing for a stronger relationship, think about what elements of the relationship you feel are missing from your marriage. Do you feel lonely and want to spend more time with them?
Where does this loneliness come from? Do you want to devote more time to date night because you want to deepen your understanding of each other, or do you want to spend time with them because you feel lonely when you’re alone?
The Importance of Knowing Yourself
Again, it all comes down to knowing yourself and understanding that you cannot depend on your partner to fulfill your basic needs. Your marriage should certainly emphasize the importance of supporting each other. And you shouldn’t have to do it all on your own, but you need to fully know yourself and feel complete on your own for your relationship to truly blossom.
Manifesting works when you know the true root of your intentions, and this can only happen when you truly know yourself and engage in frequent self-reflection.
Getting to know yourself can seem like a difficult process, so when starting out, keep things simple. You can try:
These simple steps help you break down an intimidating process.
Love of My Life Quotes
Does this all seem a bit overwhelming? Realizing how much work a healthy relationship takes can feel that way. But these quotes will help to remind you how rewarding it feels when you’ve created a lasting relationship with the one that’s right for you.
“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” – Lao-Tzu
“The greatest happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved; loved for ourselves, or rather, loved in spite of ourselves.” – Victor Hugo
“To be fully seen by somebody, then, and be loved anyhow–this is a human offering that can border on miraculous.” – Elizabeth Gilbert
“You are ready and able to do beautiful things in this world, and as you walk through those doors today, you will only have two choices: love or fear. Choose love, and don’t ever let fear turn you against your playful heart.” ― Jim Carrey
“I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate that when I fall asleep your eyes close.” – Pablo Neruda
Manifest the Best for Your Love Life
When it comes to manifesting your dreams for a better love life, don’t let the work become one-sided. When you put so much emphasis on your own self-reflection, it can feel like you’re the only one doing all the work.
Learning how to manifest a better relationship for you and your partner can start as a solo activity, but true improvement in your love life can only come from a team effort.Published in
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